SLUT

Art by Izzy Cichy


Slut. The word that carries so much more meaning than its definition. When you’re labeled a slut, you’re not just promiscuousyou’re easy, greedy, selfish, despicable, and shameful. But what really is a slut? How many times do you have to have sex before you’re a slut? Ten? Five? One? Zero? Being a slut doesn’t have a set definition the word just exists to hurt women and make them feel insecure. I’ll admit it; I’ve called myself a slut before. I’ve called others sluts before and there is not a day that goes by without me regretting my actions. But that voice is still there in the back of my head, looking at other girls and judging them, looking at me and feeling disgusted, telling me that we’re all just sluts anyways, so why does it matter? It’s time to extinguish that voice. Destroy self-hate. Destroy double standards. Destroy girl hate.


“I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself.” -Rita Mae Brown


Don’t let people tell you who you are and refuse to let others’ labels define you. Choose your own labels. If you want to be a slut, call yourself a slut. Empower yourself through the words used to mock and demean you. If you want to forget about all of the words used to push you down and destroy you, stay far away from the word ‘slut’. Call yourself every adjective in the dictionary to cover up the faded label ‘slut’, if that’s what you desire. Empower yourself through your adjectives. Empower yourself through your verbs. Have a lot of sex. Have no sex. Smile whenever you can. Share smiles only with the people closest to you. But, make sure you love yourself while you’re doing it.


“Besides, if one little kiss makes her a slut, I'd hate to know what that makes you.” - Kelly Oram


Destroy double standards. Don’t praise boys for having sex while outcasting and insulting the girls they had sex with. You create boys with no respect for girls and girls with no respect for girls. Don’t call loud boys ‘confident’ and loud girls ‘bossy’. Don’t call shy boys ‘losers’ and shy girls ‘adorable’. Don’t call boys ‘powerful’ and girls ‘pigheaded’ for doing the same things. Girls can be loud and break the expectation that girls should be quiet and submissive. Boys can be quiet and break the expectation that all boys should be loud and confident. Double standards are meant to keep people in the mold that society has created for them. Let people grow freely.


“Dear Girls Across the Globe,
Let's stop body-shaming each other with hurtful comments about how another girl looks or doesn't look. We are all beautiful in our own unique way; so let's speak about each other with the dignity that we would want others to have when they speak about us.” -Miya Yamanouchi


Stop pitting girls against each other. Stop telling girls that they can only become the equals of boys if they get there by crushing other girls on the way up. Girls, boys, and the people who are neither are equals by birth. Stop telling girls that they are only desirable if they prefer to be friends with only boys. Stop telling girls that girls only start drama. That’s bullshit. Being friends with girls is great. Being friends with boys is great. Being friends with nonbinary people is great. Girls can be friends with whoever they want. Girls can dress the way they want and eat the way they want. Don’t pit girls against each other because some like to wear crop tops and mini skirts from Forever 21 and some like sweaters and skinny jeans from Target. Don’t pit girls against each other because some prefer salads and some prefer wings. Don’t read this and laugh. Turn on your TV and watch a sitcom with a stereotypical female love interest. She will probably scoff at the girls she calls ‘sluts’ and ‘bimbos’ and say that she’s a real girl who prefers meat over salads because she has self respect. Stop pitting girls against each other because of the food they like or the clothes they wear or the personalities they enjoy. Let girls be happy with who they are and who others are. Creating hate will only breed hate against others and hate against oneself. Girls can love themselves and love their polar opposites simultaneously. They don’t need to push down other girls to be worthy of love or respect. Girls can be human. Let them be themselves.

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