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There’s something about New Year’s that somehow inspires everyone to change. Or hope to, at least. Maybe it’s the color of your hair, or the space between your thighs, or the way you think about others and yourself. People on Twitter and Tumblr post and share pictures with captions like “Please let 2016 be good” or “Next year will be better” plastered on gradient and floral backgrounds, hoping that these images worth nothing but a simple reblog or a retweet will magically transform their year. For many of us, New Year’s Eve becomes synonymous with lost hope, failed goals, and slivers of who we could have been. Maybe you had goals for 2015 that didn’t work out the way you wanted them to—and that’s life. But that shouldn’t discourage anyone from trying again, to take a step further to your goal. For all those who’ve hoped and prayed for a better version of themselves to come into existence, here’s your toolkit.
It’s fairly easy to tell yourself today that you will do it—lose weight, ask your crush out, study more, become cool, etc—but it’s just as easy to quit. New Year’s resolutions might be synonymous to failed dreams, but it doesn’t always have to be. Finding motivation is hard, and many assume that by setting a resolution for the New Year’s then it’ll come effortlessly, but it doesn’t. A huge problem that leads to lack of motivation is unrealistic expectations. Breaking down your goal into baby steps so that you can get there helps with the process. You can’t run 5K or learn the guitar in a day—so reserve part of your day, starting at fifteen minutes to an hour, and start practicing slowly. Pace yourself, don’t expect too much (but do expect small results), and reward yourself, at least weekly. Rewards make these goals better—and easier—, as you aren’t only waiting on the end result, but on that little reward that could be chocolate or watching some Netflix or even just taking a small nap.
Sometimes, your New Year’s resolution might be the last step to becoming “perfect”, to fitting the ideal “look” that’s been fed to you by the media. It’s not bad to want a gap between your thighs, or a louder voice, or less acne to be beautiful—but that’s not what you need to complete yourself. If you’d like to become a makeup guru, or get toned legs—as long as there are good reasons behind it—then go for it. But don’t forget that it’s not worth it if it doesn’t make you happy or if this goal isn’t your idea. No one who matters in your life should be pushing you to become this new version of yourself. Whether it’s your family members, your friends or significant other, or a complete stranger—remember their opinion shouldn't matter if they don’t accept you the way you are. The only person who should want to change yourself is you.Also, take into consideration that your goal might need some adjusting so that it doesn’t feel like work instead of a goal. If it feels like too much, it could lead to procrastination and will lead to another unfinished goal to add to the list. If you’d like to start exercising or eating healthy, remember to never follow one that doesn't motivate you to continue/isn’t fun, and just reminds you of who you’re not and the goal that you clearly aren’t getting closer to. For example, if exercising is your goal, then find something fun and progress from that. Start running or take some classes of fun exercises like yoga, Pilates or even Zumba. If you can’t reach a gym, then open up your laptop and watch Youtubers such as Cassey Ho from Blogilates and Adrienne Mishler from Yoga With Adrienne who have plenty of videos to help you attain your goal.
Lastly, do not forget your goal. Forgetting goals is easy, but not when you have the right people to support you. Having friends and family who will not only motivate you, but nag you a bit about your goal helps tremendously. It might be hard if the people close to you aren’t as supportive as you’d like them to be, but remember there’s a least one person on your side cheering you on—even if that one person may have to be yourself. Don’t let the bad comments and negativity get to you and stay true to yourself and your goal by keeping it up, no matter how hard it is or how long it may take. Be true to yourself and be the “new you” you were meant to be, no matter what anyone says about it.